My friend for 16 years, Kiddo, is dying.
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I need some advise please – - – Kiddo, my friend for 16 years is dying. He is a very lovable terrier mix, and looks kind of like a black and white dust mop. He has spells of uncontrolled coughing, lasting sometimes for an hour or more. One Vet says the problem is congestive heart failure, and an associate Vet says Kiddos organs are being pushed aside by something, taking up the space where his lungs should be. I don’t know that it makes much difference what the problem is, in any case Kiddo can not live that much longer. I am and elderly man, living alone, with Kiddo. He is my friend and companion. I love him more than any one can know. We are each others companions. I will miss my friend very much when he leaves me. He is irreplaceable. And now the advice. When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog right away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to subside over Kiddo’s death? To me Kiddo can not be replaced. If I get another dog, is it being fair to that dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it fair to the memory of Kiddo?. What should I do? Your thoughts, your thinking will be appreciated? For those who have had this experience, what did you do? How did it work out for you? Thank you for any advice you can offer. It is appreciated.
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> When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog right > away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to > subside over Kiddo’s death?
That’s a very personal decision. Me? I’d never be without a dog, so if I didn’t have a second already, I’d be looking into another. > To me Kiddo can not be > replaced.
Of course not, so I wouldn’t be looking for a *replacement*, just another dog that I liked and liked me. > If I get another dog, is it being fair to that > dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it fair to the > memory of Kiddo?
Again, a very personal decision. Kiddo won’t mind and, as long as you don’t expect the new dog to be Kiddo, it’ll be fair. Don’t worry about your memories of Kiddo, they won’t be going anywhere. — –Matt. Rocky’s a Dog.
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My heart goes out to you right now. Replacement for Kiddo is not the correct word – as no other dog will or could replace Kiddo. It will be a whole new endearment for you and the new dog. You will know when the time is right for another companion – trust me (us) on that. And most importantly – it will be an honor and tribute "to Kiddo" when you make that decision for another precious furkid. tanya TACHANKA SIBERIANS "All Four Paws Rolling" Wenatchee, WA
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So sorrry you will be facing the loss if Kiddo. I know how difficult it will be. After losing my best friend last February it was so lonely in the house we decided to get another dog by the third week. For us, it helped to ease the pain by knowing we were helping another dog. We decided not to get a puppy and find an adult dog who might be more difficult to place. Every day we take so much pleasure in watching this guy blossom into a happy dog after being neglected and mistreated for his first couple years of life. Things have worked out beautifully for us. For us the answer was to get another dog very soon. If I had waited for the pain of getting over our best friend, it may have never happened. I still think of him and am saddened by the loss. For us, the only cure was another dog. Of course, it is an entirely personal decision. If you need help locating another dog who suits your needs, feel free to ask about a dog rescue groups and I can help direct you. The good thing about a dog kept in foster care before rehoming is that they can tell you about the dog, perhaps, give you his background and let you know about his activity level, etc. so that you find a good match. Good luck, Janice
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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog right > away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to > subside over Kiddo’s death? > That’s a very personal decision. Me? I’d never be without a > dog, so if I didn’t have a second already, I’d be looking into > another. > To me Kiddo can not be > replaced. > Of course not, so I wouldn’t be looking for a *replacement*, > just another dog that I liked and liked me. > If I get another dog, is it being fair to that > dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it fair to the > memory of Kiddo? > Again, a very personal decision. Kiddo won’t mind and, as long > as you don’t expect the new dog to be Kiddo, it’ll be fair. > Don’t worry about your memories of Kiddo, they won’t be going > anywhere. > — > –Matt. Rocky’s a Dog. —– Original Message —– Newsgroups: rec.pets.dogs.health Sent: Saturday, February 02, 2002 4:28 AM > When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog right > away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to > subside over Kiddo’s death? > That’s a very personal decision. Me? I’d never be without a > dog, so if I didn’t have a second already, I’d be looking into > another. > To me Kiddo can not be > replaced. > Of course not, so I wouldn’t be looking for a *replacement*, > just another dog that I liked and liked me. > If I get another dog, is it being fair to that > dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it fair to the > memory of Kiddo? > Again, a very personal decision. Kiddo won’t mind and, as long > as you don’t expect the new dog to be Kiddo, it’ll be fair. > Don’t worry about your memories of Kiddo, they won’t be going > anywhere. > — > –Matt. Rocky’s a Dog. I agree with the above. You sugggest you are an older gentleman, as if you may be in your 70’s or further (Please, I’m NOT being ageist) but depending on your own personal fitness (which is often prolnged and improved by just having a pet to look after) you might want to consider adopting an adult dog: 1) so it won’t outlive you, which would be a shame. 2) It would be nice to possibly save a dogs life as I believe many dogs in US shelters are euthanised, especially mature adults for whom it is often more difficult to find homes. 3) you will most likely be able to chose a dog who is past the chewy stage and is already trained to the lead and is clean indoors, saving you a lot of hard work. Good luck and so sorry to hear that your good friend is so close to the end. Whatever you decide it won’t upset him ~ he only needs your love, in large doses at the moment, to help him through… then you must consider yourself. Good luck and you have my deep sympathy ~ my GSD’s about 13 and although she’s very fit, I know I can’t expect her to carry on forever… Diana Stone is July 5th on the birthday calendar http://ourdogs.chilly-hippo.co.uk
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p I can appreciate your concerns and grief. My heart bleeds for you over Kiddo. I have a friend, 84 years old, who fell and was in the hospital. While she was recovering, we had her house freshly painted, and new carpets (so she wouldn’t trip again). The carpeters finished their work, but planned to rob the house. The night they finished, they broke in, doused the house with gasoline, and lit a match, killing her 12 cats and newfoundland/lab mix (friend of 19 years). Needless to say, she was devastated. Her house was renovated (it took a year), but coming home was so lonely for her. She didn’t want a young dog, because at 84, if her NEXT dog died prematurely at age 19, it would most likely outlive her. She also wasn’t able to handle the energy and training of a young dog. So I searched newsgroups/rescues for 2 years. I looked at anything that looked like a match. MOST rescues would not even consider adopting to an 86 year old woman. But we continued the search. Finally we found on newsgroups, someone desperately looking for a final hour home for their dog, and wanted it desperately enough that they drove this dog over 2000 miles to meet her. As soon as I saw this dog, I KNEW it was a match. (I had long ago quit telling her I was still looking for a dog for her, because she was so disappointed that it didn’t work out) So I excitedly called her, and told her I had her dog. A bit surprised and unprepared, she said bring it over, and let me see. This dog walked in her house (it was an 11 year old dog.. NO one wanted to adopt a dog that old, because of the short term life span) It was a perfect match. She was EVERYTHING we were looking for in a dog. We were so excited we invited the neighborhood in to see the perfect match. Everyone was against her having a dog, because of her age. As soon as they saw THIS dog, all the nay-sayers walked away in approval, for indeed, THIS dog was the RIGHT match! I can’t begin to tell you how this dog has enriched this woman’s life and rekindled the dying embers and put energy back into her life. She had given up, and this dog gave her something to live for. She was almost totally dependent on me until she got this dog, Now she takes her dog out on daily rides. She’s seen walking her dog down the street. She has assumed all the responsibilities that I was doing for her and having this dog in her life has given her life a rebirth. She is active in the Library. She has become, once again, an important vital part of the community. All for a dog. There isn’t anyone who doesn’t remark what a change that dog has made in her life. She’s a WONDERFUL dog. So although you should be very careful about selecting your next dog, and I think you should probably look for an older rescue, and Rescues may turn you down, please print this off and hand it to them. An older rescue IS an option. it may save that dogs life, and fill a void in yours. And who knows, the difference may be magical. Give a big hug to Kiddo for me. I, also have my heart dog that I worry about his health daily. I know his time is measured. Losing him will be the most awful thing in my life, so I don’t take your impending loss lightly either. I know what the loss of loved ones did to my aging friend. I just wanted to re-assure you that adopting another in that awful void will help your depression and possibly give you new vitality when you once again have something to share, care for, and be your personal companion. Please don’t give up, my friend.
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Get another dog as soon as possible, to pick up more or less where you left off. For pure-breds the advice is get the same breed; and I got the same color and sex as well. Grief gives bad advice. “The ants will take care of the corpse in a few weeks; a heart thrown into the grave with the dog will stink for quite a while.” As for the dog outliving you, well, everybody takes risks. You can get a probably fairly sedate older dog though from pure-bred rescue groups, if you want to even the odds, which seems fair if that’s a concern. Life expectencies though are pretty long given that you’re alive today, in dog years. — Ron Hardin On the internet, nobody knows you’re a jerk.
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Get another dog…. Your going to need someone to talk to….
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> I need some advise please – - – > And now the advice. When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog right > away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to subside over > Kiddo’s death?
I’m so sorry to hear about Kiddo. It’s so tough to watch your friends get sick. I think this is such a personal decision. Listen to your heart – you’ll know what you "need" to do. I know some people that weren’t emotionally ready for a new dog for over a year. My husband and I had to put down our 14-year old dog in early December. It was a fast-moving cancer that snuck up on all of us. We were utterly devastated. I had only known her for the 5 years that I have known my husband and I think that I was more of a wreck than he was. She was the perfect dog and frankly, I was afraid to get another in case the new one wasn’t "as good" as she was. I didn’t want us to be constantly comparing them (which would be unfair to both) so we both decided that we should wait a few months before getting a new one. However, I soon found that I hated living without a dog. Almost 3 weeks after we had to put Onyx to sleep, we adopted Callie, a 7-month-old Collie. We were looking online on Petfinder.com at lots of different dogs, but none of them really jumped out at us until we saw Callie. As soon as we saw her, we just "knew". She was the first dog that I could see my husband’s eyes light up for when he saw her picture. To me Kiddo can not be replaced. If I get another dog, is > it being fair to that dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it fair to > the memory of Kiddo?. What should I do?
No dog can ever replace Onxy nor will any dog be able to replace Kiddo for you (nor should they be replaced). I still have her pictures hanging up at my office and I’ll admit that I still cry sometimes (heck, I’m getting choked up writing this). That being said, I don’t think that she would have wanted us to be lonely and miserable when we were able to give our new little girl a home that she needed so badly. Every dog I’ve had holds a special place in my heart and I’d like to think that I have room for lots more of them. Only you will be able to make the decision when to get your next dog – listen to your guts more than what all of us tell you. Just know that nobody will see you as being unfaithful to Kiddo or his memory if you go out and get another dog. Please keep us posted. Steph
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> As for the dog outliving you, well, everybody takes risks. You can > get a probably fairly sedate older dog though from pure-bred rescue > groups, if you want to even the odds, which seems fair if that’s > a concern. Life expectencies though are pretty long given that you’re > alive today, in dog years.
According to the IRS you have to be 80 years old before your life expectancy is less then 10 years. http://www.retirelink.com/education/LifeExpectancy.html And then after ten years you get five more if you’re still around. — Ron Hardin On the internet, nobody knows you’re a jerk.
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— Cyndi – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I need some advise please – - – > Kiddo, my friend for 16 years is dying. He is a very lovable terrier mix, > and looks kind of like a black and white dust mop. He has spells of > uncontrolled coughing, lasting sometimes for an hour or more. One Vet says > the problem is congestive heart failure, and an associate Vet says Kiddos > organs are being pushed aside by something, taking up the space where his > lungs should be. I don’t know that it makes much difference what the > problem is, in any case Kiddo can not live that much longer. > I am and elderly man, living alone, with Kiddo. He is my friend and > companion. I love him more than any one can know. We are each others > companions. I will miss my friend very much when he leaves me. He is > irreplaceable. > And now the advice. When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog right > away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to subside over > Kiddo’s death? To me Kiddo can not be replaced. If I get another dog, is > it being fair to that dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it fair to > the memory of Kiddo?. What should I do? > Your thoughts, your thinking will be appreciated? For those who have had > this experience, what did you do? How did it work out for you? > Thank you for any advice you can offer. It is appreciated.
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I wish my mother-in-law would take this advice. She is living all alone and misses her dog terribly (was put to sleep 3 years ago at 12 years old), but she will not get another one for the fear of the dog outlasting her. She is very lonely and becoming a bitter old woman, and she really needs the companionship, but says she can’t take care of one anymore. From reading about this older woman you write about, my MIL might be more physically active if she had a reason to be. — Cyndi – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > p > I can appreciate your concerns and grief. My heart bleeds for you over > Kiddo. > I have a friend, 84 years old, who fell and was in the hospital. While > she was recovering, we had her house freshly painted, and new carpets > (so she wouldn’t trip again). The carpeters finished their work, but > planned to rob the house. The night they finished, they broke in, doused > the house with gasoline, and lit a match, killing her 12 cats and > newfoundland/lab mix (friend of 19 years). Needless to say, she was > devastated. > Her house was renovated (it took a year), but coming home was so lonely > for her. > She didn’t want a young dog, because at 84, if her NEXT dog died > prematurely at age 19, it would most likely outlive her. She also wasn’t > able to handle the energy and training of a young dog. > So I searched newsgroups/rescues for 2 years. I looked at anything that > looked like a match. MOST rescues would not even consider adopting to an > 86 year old woman. But we continued the search. Finally we found on > newsgroups, someone desperately looking for a final hour home for their > dog, and wanted it desperately enough that they drove this dog over 2000 > miles to meet her. > As soon as I saw this dog, I KNEW it was a match. (I had long ago quit > telling her I was still looking for a dog for her, because she was so > disappointed that it didn’t work out) So I excitedly called her, and > told her I had her dog. A bit surprised and unprepared, she said bring > it over, and let me see. > This dog walked in her house (it was an 11 year old dog.. NO one wanted > to adopt a dog that old, because of the short term life span) It was a > perfect match. She was EVERYTHING we were looking for in a dog. We were > so excited we invited the neighborhood in to see the perfect match. > Everyone was against her having a dog, because of her age. As soon as > they saw THIS dog, all the nay-sayers walked away in approval, for > indeed, THIS dog was the RIGHT match! > I can’t begin to tell you how this dog has enriched this woman’s life > and rekindled the dying embers and put energy back into her life. She > had given up, and this dog gave her something to live for. She was > almost totally dependent on me until she got this dog, Now she takes her > dog out on daily rides. She’s seen walking her dog down the street. She > has assumed all the responsibilities that I was doing for her and having > this dog in her life has given her life a rebirth. She is active in the > Library. She has become, once again, an important vital part of the > community. All for a dog. > There isn’t anyone who doesn’t remark what a change that dog has made > in her life. She’s a WONDERFUL dog. > So although you should be very careful about selecting your next dog, > and I think you should probably look for an older rescue, and Rescues > may turn you down, please print this off and hand it to them. > An older rescue IS an option. it may save that dogs life, and fill a > void in yours. And who knows, the difference may be magical. > Give a big hug to Kiddo for me. I, also have my heart dog that I worry > about his health daily. I know his time is measured. Losing him will be > the most awful thing in my life, so I don’t take your impending loss > lightly either. I know what the loss of loved ones did to my aging > friend. I just wanted to re-assure you that adopting another in that > awful void will help your depression and possibly give you new vitality > when you once again have something to share, care for, and be your > personal companion. > Please don’t give up, my friend.
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Hello Phil. Sorry to hear about Kiddo. You are honoring everything he is to you by your actions of staying with him and realistically facing his problems. If you don’t have any photos of him and think you might want some, now is the time to act. Disposable cameras are available cheaply if you don’t have a camera. Of course you just might feel worse after you get the photos developed, in which case the photo idea is off-base and I apologize. As for if you should get another dog, well, it depends on how you feel. If shortly after Kiddo’s passing you think you want another dog, don’t go get a dog right away. But go be around other dogs right away, and that will help you decide if you are really ready. Go visit a dog park, or an area where a lot of people walk their dogs, or see friends with dogs. Don’t go to a shelter unless you are prepared to take a dog home<G>. I once went 5 years between owning dogs, but my roommates had a dog they let me take out and spoil whenever I wanted. A local shelter where I live in Washington State, PAWS, has a program called seniors for seniors. They try to place older animals with older people, and will take the animal back if it outlives the human. Not suggesting you drive all the way over to the left coast to get a dog, but rather you should look into the availability of such a program in your area. jdoee – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I need some advise please – - – > Kiddo, my friend for 16 years is dying. He is a very lovable terrier mix, > and looks kind of like a black and white dust mop. snip
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> And now the advice. When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog right > away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to subside over > Kiddo’s death? To me Kiddo can not be replaced. If I get another dog, is > it being fair to that dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it fair to > the memory of Kiddo?. What should I do?
Two and half years ago we lost our beloved Hector. It was more painful than any other dog’s death had ever been before. It hit both me and my husband equally hard. For the first time in our lives, we could not stand to get another dog. We waited. We mourned. We even healed some. But I can still cry at the drop of a hat if I think of him. Last summer, we started thinking maybe we could stand the thought of another dog. We thought maybe we should get a dog that would be totally different. Different breed, different sex, different temperament. After months of searching, both in our hearts and at breeder’s, we got a new puppy last month. Same breed, same sex, same coloring, same temperament but different personality. Spenser is not Hector. That doesn’t mean we don’t call him that occasionally. He’s not a replacement. We talk about the similarities and the differences. For us it was right to wait. I think it would have been too difficult right away. But my point is that waiting hasn’t stopped us from making the comparisons. Hector is still very much in our minds – as he would be if we didn’t have Spenser. Spenser is going to be a great dog also – but it’s going to take time for him to reach the level that Hector was. He may never reach it – and that’s okay too. Maybe it would be just as well if he doesn’t reach that level of "heart dog" that Hector was – it’s so painful at the end. But that’s not something we get to decide. He’s still going to have a great life here with us. It was suggested to me that getting another dog is actually a way to honor what your beloved friend gave you. It’s your chance to share that love with another dog. He won’t care if he’s second to a memory as long as he gets that love from you and gets to love you. When to do that is something that only you can know. I have seen friends get dogs immediately and it has been a mistake. For others it has been exactly what they needed – to have some life around the house instead of the silence. I would wait at least a little time and see how the silence affects you. Many people I know have waited and in practically no time, another dog has presented itself to them without them even looking. Do what feels right to you. My prayers are with you and Kiddo. I understand. Judy
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>The night they finished, they broke in, doused the house with gasoline, and
lit a match, killing her 12 cats and >newfoundland/lab mix (friend of 19 years). Needless to say, she was >devastated.
Diddy, I can’t believe what I just read here!! Tell me they were caught, arrested, castrated, ha! Unbelievable, that poor woman and poor animals! How could people be so heartless. Debbie
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>Grief gives bad advice. “The ants will take care of the corpse >in a few weeks; a heart thrown into the grave with the dog will >stink for quite a while.”
What the hell?? I can’t believe someone wrote this. For what purpose? Debbie
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> >The night they finished, they broke in, doused the house with gasoline, and > lit a match, killing her 12 cats and >newfoundland/lab mix (friend of 19 years). Needless to say, she was >devastated. > Diddy, I can’t believe what I just read here!! Tell me they were caught, > arrested, castrated, ha! Unbelievable, that poor woman and poor animals! How > could people be so heartless. > Debbie
They made 2 arrests on other charges. They held one for 10 days and released him, (They couldn’t prove he lit the match) The other has been released. If I ever catch either one of them, I’m going to sit on them, while Mrs River’s castrates them both I’m not kidding. The justice system failed.
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>The other has been released. >If I ever catch either one of them, I’m going to sit on them, while Mrs >River’s castrates them both >I’m not kidding. The justice system failed.
It certainly did. Perhaps they needed more prove than they had? Maybe someone else had been watching and new she wasn’t around? Really sad story. Debbie
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I too am sorry to hear about Kiddo. One option that COULD work while you try to make up your mind is to look and ask around — are there any people in your neighborhood or family or group of friends who have a young pup or an older dog who could come visit you during the day while they are at work? I read an article once about a service that matched up people who work with people who are home during the day — in essence they "share" a dog. I’m not suggesting precisely that, but you could do somebody a tremendous favor if you would "babysit" or do "daycare" for their pet during a long workday, or to enable them to go away for a weekend. This might give you doggie companionship during your grieving period, do somebody else a very great favor, and help you make up your mind whether you want another full time dog without any long term commitment. It might be worth asking family members to look around. I know plenty of people who would love to know that their dog was getting some cuddling and ball playing or walks during the work day, especially if they have a long commute. Just a thought you might look into! kassa
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well phil hard answer. sorry for your upcoming loss. i just lost 2 dogs 15 years old and had them put down together. main thing here is do not let the dog suffer. if you think the dog is in discomfort of a nature you yourself wouldnt be able to get throught peacefully without medication as he is doing then it is YOUR DUTY TO go to the vets and while being WITH YOUR PET have it put to sleep. hard on you you say. well not as hard as it is for the dog! at your dogs age it is time and he will be leaving you and remember as hard as it is you must not let the dog suffer in its last moments of life and you yourself wouldnt want to either. –be with your pet and let him know you are there and try not to let him know what is happening. the vet will give him a injection and he will just very quickly drift into a deep sleep not knowing what happened and you will remember you were with it and it was not suffering. will your vet come to the house? — i would say that you will be very loney and that after about two weeks you need to go and get another dog. but not a puppy. get a adult with a good history . they make the very best of pets and no chewing and pulling on the leash etc. for a older person of any age they are really the best and there are places that are full of adult dogs and that can tell you which will fit you and you know many rescue will take the pet back if it doesnt fit no puppies to be left alone later. but seriously dogs are and can be fitted to the owner . so try a older dog they learn fast and go to a rescue or a place like a because you care type that rescues dogs and you wont be sorry. and that business about they have bad habits is 95% untrue and puppies can turn out not what you wanted either. you want a dog that is calmer and not hyper and therefore older. say even like a 4 year old would be fine for you. once again my sympathy as you will indeed miss this dog more then you can possibly say but you dont have to forget him and you never will but this will take your mind off of it all and give you companionship as well and help some other older dog through its ruff journey through life also. best wishes
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>>Grief gives bad advice. “The ants will take care of the corpse >in a few weeks; a heart thrown into the grave with the dog will >stink for quite a while.” >What the hell?? I can’t believe someone wrote this. For what purpose? >Debbie
I believe what the poster was trying to say was to not let your heart die and bury it with a beloved pet, but to let open it to another. Perhaps it’s phrased indelicately, but it makes sense. ~~ Kathi ~~
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Phil-One thing in your message really caught my eye-the part where you ask if it will be fair to Kiddo’s memory to get another dog. A few years ago I lost the greatest dog I ever had-Bocephus. He was an Irish Setter mix and the most beautiful dog I ever laid eyes on. He had a tumor on his pancreas and had surgery which was supposed to save his life, he lost too much blood and we lost him. I thought I would never get over the loss of this companion and good friend. But I realized that all of the tears and sadness and the puppy I got after Bocephus were not unfair to his memory, they HONORED his memory….only someone who loved and honored the life and friendship of their dog would want the company of another dog. My next dog-Angus (the biggest Golden Retriever I have ever seen), will never replace Bocephus (and my next dog will never replace Angus), but we are dog lovers/owners because of all the wonderful things that each and every dog we own brings to our lives…we don’t get another dog because we have forgotten the last one, but because the last dog was so great that we cannot NOT have another. Remember Kiddo always and have another dog as soon as you feel the desire to have one (you will know when the time is right), and don’t feel guilty for having a new friend just feel fortunate that you got to know Kiddo and that he spent his life with someone that truly cared about him. Take care and God Bless Kiddo for the joy he brought to you! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I need some advise please – - – > Kiddo, my friend for 16 years is dying. He is a very lovable terrier > mix, > and looks kind of like a black and white dust mop. He has spells of > uncontrolled coughing, lasting sometimes for an hour or more. One Vet > says > the problem is congestive heart failure, and an associate Vet says > Kiddos > organs are being pushed aside by something, taking up the space where > his > lungs should be. I don’t know that it makes much difference what the > problem is, in any case Kiddo can not live that much longer. > I am and elderly man, living alone, withKiddo. He is my friend and > companion. I love him more than any one can know. We are each others > companions. I will miss my friend very much when he leaves me. He is > irreplaceable. > And now the advice. When Kiddo leaves me, should I get another dog > right > away, to fill the void, or should I wait for the grief to subside over > Kiddo’s death? To me Kiddo can not be replaced. If I get another > dog, is > it being fair to that dog, when Kiddo is so much in my mind? Is it > fair to > the memory of Kiddo?. What should I do? > Your thoughts, your thinking will be appreciated? For those who have > had > this experience, what did you do? How did it work out for you? > Thank you for any advice you can offer. It is appreciated.
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